10 Steps to Less Stressful Caretaking

By Harry S. Margolis

Taking care of a senior, whether due to dementia or illness, can be exhausting and stressful. Often due to the lack of outside help, a devotion to the person needing care, or the tunnel vision that can accompany exhaustion, caretakers don't take care of themselves.

But they must. Failure to do so can lead to burn out, injury or illness. If you are the caregiver, any of these results will harm your ability to care for your loved one.

Here are some steps you can take to take care of yourself and make sure you can take care of your loved one:

  1. Take a break every day. Make sure you have some down time to relax, whether it's watching television, reading the newspaper, or calling a friend. Just make sure you do at least one thing for yourself every day.
  2. Take a break every week. If possible, get out of the house at least once a week to do something you want to do - go to the movies, have dinner with friends, whatever works for you. If you cannot get someone to cover for you, have friends over to your house.
  3. Get respite. Take a break of at least a week at least once a year. You can hire help in the house or arrange for a respite stay at an assisted living facility or nursing home.
  4. Get regular exercise. It's necessary for your health and to moderate any stress you may be feeling. If you can't get out of the house to exercise, buy or rent a stationary bicycle or other exercise equipment.
  5. Eat well. Make sure you stay healthy with sufficient energy to do what you need to for your loved one.
  6. Sleep. Make sure you get enough sleep. Lack of sleep will sap your patience and reserves, making it more difficult for you to provide the care you would like to give your loved one.
  7. Join a support group. While you may or may not be in this alone, you're not the only one in a similar situation. Others going through similar experiences.
  8. Hire a geriatric care manager. An experienced geriatric care manager can help you determine whether your loved one is receiving the most appropriate care and what resources in the community are available to assist you.
  9. Consult with an elder law attorney. In order to access many of the programs recommended by the geriatric care manager, your loved one will have to qualify financially. An elder law attorney can help you qualify for these benefits. In addition, make sure you don't get hit with a double financial whammy of losing years of earnings while your caring for your family member and losing his or her assets due to squabbles with other family members or Medicaid estate recovery. Also, you may be entitled to some pay by the state for the care you are providing.
  10. Check out Lotsa Helping Hands. Check out www.lotsahelpinghands.com as a resource for getting volunteer help in your community and coordinating the help your family and friends already provide.

In short, think of the care you are providing as a marathon, not a sprint. You need to pace yourself and conserve your energy for the long-term. Too much stress and exhaustion won't help your loved one.

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